Is Adoption Worth It?
Yesterday, I saw the movies: To All The Boys I’ve ever loved and To All the Boys: P.S. I Still Love You – a romantic movie – and Lana caught my eye.
Asides the fact that she is drop-dead gorgeous and that she played the lead role, something about her touched me.
There was an undeniable charisma about her that got me hooked throughout the movie. And Lord knows I’m no fan of the romance genre.
So I have this thing I do where after I see a movie that impresses me, I go online to read about the movie’s cast, a possible sequel, and box office ratings.
That’s what I did after seeing Lana on my screen; I looked her up and I was amazed at my discovery. She was adopted!
Lana Therese Condor is a Vietnamese-American actress and dancer. She is best known for her role as Lara Jean Covey in the To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before film series and Jubilee in X-Men: Apocalypse (2016). Condor was born in Vietnam. She was initially raised in an orphanage in Cần Thơ, Vietnam, before being adopted by American parents on October 6, 1997.
This bit of information struck me on the inside. I’ve always said I would adopt kids; I want a big family (adopted kids inclusive). Reading this strengthened my decision even more.
Because a man and his wife decided to take a chance on a little girl, her life has been transformed. She became a recipient of opportunities she wouldn’t ordinarily have had if she were still in an orphanage in Vietnam.
Her talent has gained her worldwide fame and made her a sought after actress. Perhaps if she were still an orphan in Vietnam, she would have remained unknown. Her light would have been hidden or dimmed.
Is Adoption Worth It?
How many children are out there in the world unheard of and unseen, talents hidden because they lack an opportunity like this? Countless!
From Wikipedia’s account, it is evident that her parents don’t have biological children of their own. It states that Lana has an adoptive brother. There is no mention of biological kids.
My respect will forever go to her parents. In my eyes, they are heroes. Why? Because adoption is a dicey issue! In some circles, it is heavily frowned at and rejected. Especially in Africa. I’ve heard conversations like “How can you train another man or woman’s child? Someone who isn’t your flesh and blood.”
It is even difficult for many folks to raise the children of their intended. How much more adopt a total stranger.
I’m not about to judge or tell anyone what to do. Hey, to each his own; if you know you won’t love that child as your own, it is better not to adopt. But if you would, I can boldly say there is a blessing that comes with taking up a child that is not yours and loving and caring for them. You don’t need to be religious or spiritual to know this.
What’s more? God adopted us into His family as His own. We weren’t His originally but in His love and mercy, He translated us into His Family and Kingdom through His only begotten Son, and now we are joint-heirs with Christ Jesus. If God could adopt you, what’s wrong with adopting a child if you have the means and resources to?
The world is a terrible place. There are so many abused kids in orphanages; the establishment itself is flawed if you know what I mean. So by adopting a child, you are making the world a better place in your own little way and contributing to humanity. Above all, you are obeying God’s greatest commandment, which is to LOVE.
Every child has an angel. And their angel constantly talks to God concerning them. Don’t you think they report to God about your brave and selfless act towards their charge?
I used the words brave and selfless because adopting a child is not easy. It is a whole world of work and stress. And so, I understand the fears and concerns of many people:
“What if I adopt kids and they turn out bad, perhaps as a result of their bloodline or something? Or they eventually leave me or never acknowledge me as their parent?”
You are right; these are all valid and justified concerns. But even children begotten from their biological parents behave this way (and worse). I have witnessed so many cases that left me dumbfounded.
Dear parent, there is no manual for raising kids right – biological or not. Should you decide to adopt a child, you just do your best and trust God with the rest. The Bible says, “Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.” [Proverbs 22: 6]
In the event that they depart from the way, commit them into God’s Hands to straighten them out. That’s all.
I was not adopted. Neither am I an expert on adoption matters but I believe that adoption is one of the purest acts of love.
What do you think? Is adoption worth it? Tell us in the comments. Cheers!